Last night i had a casual conversation with a friend who I met on one of the social networking sites, the conversation went pretty good then she said one thing after a while which stirred some emotions in me, I had done some late thinking,the after 12:00 A.M kind of thinking, I am an over thinker so this is one of my talents to think about something deeply, I was totally engrossed in it, an excted to get the final result.
She complained that due to her addiction for romantic things such as novels or movies, she has quite set a level on which she judged men, she said further that she hasn’t met a single guy in her life with the same qualities of the characters in a book,even one quality that resembles the characters, I quite find it amusing, it gave me an excuse to think, to over think that is,
well when I started my thought train, I knew it would be a very touchy, tricky ride so I fastened my seat belt tightly and waited for the result and the result came after few hours, when I was about to doze off into another dimension of my dreams, in which I never know what I am trying to do, I am just crazy i’ll admit it, so let’s get started,
Dear friend, what I concluded is that these characters you see and read are just mere fantasies, they are fake and full of imagination and life is much more than that, life is everything except imagination, when we read these so called romance novels we get our hopes up, the knight in shining armour, prince charming, romeo, even the beast ironially is not portrayed as a beast why didn’t you just eat her man!, okay,that so called perfect man, A human being is full of flaws and I myself am made of flaws, a normal man or woman won’t resemble the person you read or fantasize about, I am not saying we shouldn’t read them, but you should know the different between what is real and what is fake, you should know and always remember I am reading a book, a story, a ride full of imagination, we read them to escape reality now how can I explain this more perfectly, “It is just a story,an escapade from realness” okay no offence to anyone, you want to live in fantasy you can, sometimes I want to too but I know where to stop, a person should be this much mature to know that I won’t find a prince charming but I will find some one more real who would not have a horse but a car, not a castle but a house, will not sing but will work for me to keep his family happy.
Well have you ever thought why they don’t show the after scenes of marriage in movies because they know it’s totally unrealistic, the man you will get in this world would work for his family’s future, he will think of his future, not like prince charming who gets the girl let’s dance like there is no tomorrow, the end or Fin!
I guess the better thing to do is think without any superficial thoughts, A normal guy won’t have all the qualities but he will have some, same goes for women, He is a human, he will mess up sometimes, but if you really want to know the secret to a happy life, just accept him, true love is when you accept a person with his flaws, scars, his mistakes and believe me that person will turn into a Perfect man for you when you let go the fantasies,
“A perfect man doesn’t exist, the one who loves you, cares for you, sacrifices for you is perfect”
If I discuss what I want in a man, my first priority will be that he should respect women, I can’t tolerate a man who disrespects a woman, you can call me a feminist if you want, but if I respect men why wouldn’t he, If I find one who has this quality I can let go all the other things, not to forget he should be caring too, these two things “Respect” “Caring” are necessary in my case, I don’t think I am asking for too much, He will get them in return too, “What you give is what you get”